Wednesday, 25 December 2013

More Reasons to Hate Social Networking

People use social media to vent, and although I don't mind reading people's displaced passive aggressiveness, I realised that something was clearly wrong here, and that's it: the passive aggressiveness, it's exhausting! Subliminal taunts thrown across the internet, with the marginal hope that the offender will read them, but why? To hurt them? These actions are only followed by a string of rebuttals from the offender; sometimes I wonder, how old are we really? After everything we have been through as a race, has it all really boiled down to this? An "I really hate certain people" tweet? Nice!

Embedded image permalinkI am frankly quite bored of reading passive aggressive updates. I am bored of reading other's people tweets/statuses and wondering who they could be about, I cannot think of a worse way of dedicating your mental energy towards! I'm bored of the "I'm so sad" tweets and the "I'm so happy" tweets, they are so frequent, one would be inclined to believe they were suffering from a paroxysm of extreme emotions every hour. I'm bored of someone reading this article right now, thinking that I'm writing about them, well no need to fret, because I'm not writing this article with anyone in mind (but if the shoe fits... haha).

Happy updates. We've all seen them, the "I'm so happy right now"'s, and the "never been happier!"'s. Now I don't have a problem with people being happy, of course, but it's when people put on a show and simply say these things to impress others. If you're really that happy, then just enjoy the moment, why digress? Nowadays, people feel the need to announce to the world that they're happy, that they're lives are going well and fine and that they're content. For me, I see it as simply another form of gloating, "look at me! I'm so happy!" There is a ludicrous protocol lying underneath all of this, and that is if you are not telling everyone about how happy/wonderful/amazing you are, then you may as well not be happy/wonderful/amazing to begin with. How ridiculous too, that this hidden universal protocol is followed religiously by many people on the internet.

This idea of missing out on something, the imminent fear of being branded an 'outcast' through a screen, it's simply a fear we are feeding into. Naturally, we would not want to feel like our lives are somewhat any less better than anyone else's, we don't want to feel like we're missing out on something. Hence, this is why some people feel the need to let the internet know that they're happy, to remind everyone they're not missing out on anything. It all sounds crazy, and I prompt you for alternate theories, but really, this is the reality of the matter. Of course, there is always another side, perhaps these 'happy updates' are a by-product of our narcissism. I have previously discussed how we are a generation of millennials full of pride and egoism. Perhaps it is our self-entitled agenda manifest again, we feel that we have a right to let the world know of our wonderful lives, since our opinions are that important to everyone.
Social media websites like Facebook are simply stages for showing off. Everyone is acting and pretending, following the unspoken protocol. Typing to impress rather than express, sucking up to and flattering mere nobodies in a vain attempt to gain some attention. A stage for people pretending to like each other, pretending to seem sociable and outgoing, when in reality, they are the exact opposite of what they say they are. I must admit, I do find it odd when I come across naturally introverted people who transform into rather boisterous beings on the internet. Is it really a good thing to see naturally introverted people transformed into these sociable busybodies behind a screen? Although social media could be seen as an outlet for people to express themselves, what is the point of it if people are not going to act like themselves?

Perhaps I have digressed a little, but don't think I have forgotten to bring up those dreaded "I really hate some people" tweets! On a serious note, what is the purpose behind those kind of tweets? My own moral philosophy regarding this kind of venting is plain and simple: if you have a problem with somebody, then you pick it up with that somebody, not with the 554 million innocent people on Twitter, or whatever the website is in this context. Indirect statements are cowardly, and rather than coming across as agreeable, the 554 million Twitter users will be inclined to think you are simply bitter. And annoying.

So if we are not trying to brag about ourselves and our lives on the internet, then we are inherently stalking everyone else who does. Accompanied with an interlude of slyly indirect comments bitterly thrown across the internet, and there we have it: social networking! Of course, in my hyperbolic manner, I make social networking seem like a battle ground rather than a friendly place to connect with new people, as it is so strongly marketed as. Albeit, it is not all doom and gloom, like me, you can enjoy reading people's status updates from a comical perspective, (it is all rather entertaining, really) and then put all your thoughts together and type them up in a fancy article; afterall, it all makes great writing material, evidently!

Logging off,

Miss Iffa
xoxo

5 comments:

  1. Well, duuuuh!!!! Social media is a tool for people to feel special, to seem smart and "cool". I deleted my facebook account loong ago, there's just too many stupid people out there, too many baby photos nobody wants to see, and too many crappy statuses like "Currently in Mcdonalds, yeaaah". BLAH!
    Cheers to the post, you nailed it :)

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  2. Excellent post! I completely agree. In my younger years, I was definitely guilty of the "awesome day!" type of statuses haha. Now I try to keep my social media sites limited to professional networking.

    On another note, I just watched your blogging tips video on Youtube and found it very helpful. I've been interested in writing and fashion my entire life, so blogging is something that I feel very passionate about. It is really refreshing to see that you take just as much pride in your written posts as your photography. I've been doubting my work recently considering that so many popular fashion blogs strictly consist of photos. Thanks for inspiring to me to stay strong in the writing game!

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  3. Iffa, I'm truly impressed. :) Another thoughtful text as a proof of your thoroughly thinking and sharp mind. :) I totally agree with what you have written - and I too, think that social media contributes to today's youth self-image and self-absorbed behaviour.
    Then, again, I think every generation has its "flaws" - and just different ways to show them off.
    But just like you, I'm not too fond of all the twittering about "I have just eaten a sandwich" and the facebook status update with messages nobody is truly interested in.
    But it is SO EASY to press the "Like" button, hoping that if you do that, someone else will press that very same button beneath your senseless message as well... A vicious cicyle.
    What I think is most dangerous, though, is that young people get the impression everything they do is just so interesting and important... while out there in the real world, it is NOT.

    Real achievements demand effort, and that's something facebook and twitter don't teach us by giving us the chance to tell the world we are listening to "Justin Bieber" right now or "like the sunshine today". I constantly see that other students, for instance, want to get praised for even performing the most simple of tasks - and they're nonplussed if they are not told how gorgeous they did that, or - worse - are told they did it wrong.

    In the blogger world, I learned that most blogger don't want sincere advice (and you know me, I'm always polite and if I critisize, I do it in the most constructive and non-personal way possible, and I always add what has been done well), people react rude and don't see that by teling them what they can improve, they're given a chance. Most prefer the hollow "so great, love it so much, wanna follow each other" comments, building up a self-image of personal greatness that doesn't stand a chance in the 'real' world.

    Oh, I'm babbling again... ;) Sorry.

    I hope you have a wonderful day and wish you all the best
    Ninon

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  4. Where is the artwork in your post from? It was posted here with credit to a 14 year old south american boy: http://www.reddit.com/r/Heavymind/comments/1utv0f/my_14_year_old_cousin_recently_moved_to_the/

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